It's OK To Move On

I was on Facebook reading down my timeline and there was a post that read:

"Congratulations to my ex-husband and his engagement." Now I do not know their entire story. I do know they married young, but still quite some invested and children from the relationship. At first, I was taken aback. Like daaannggg, my heart dropped for her because that would be a struggle for me.  My sentiments echoed some of the commenters on her post, but she defended her position. She expressed that she was indeed actually happy, even grateful that her ex-husband had moved on. Now some people may make their own evaluations of the sincerity of her response and the relationship, but in the end, isn't the goal...to move on?

So often, we cling to the broken, bitter woman narrative. He left his WIFE, with x number of kids, AND have the nerve to move on to MARRY another woman....I mean it's time to cue Resentment and Ring the Alarm! 

To be honest, those were my thoughts too. But I read her response again, "Really, I'm happy and wish them well." Then God reminded me, well isn't that what she is suppose to do, move on. We have to grow up and mature out of being petty by nature. God does not want us to wallow in pity or to hold grudges until the end of time against anyone, even an ex spouse.

Ephesians 4:31-32
31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. 
32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

God helps us to heal from the hurt, restlessness, and overwhelming contention from past relationships. It doesn't matter whether it's romantic or not.

It's OK to forgive. It's OK to be happy.  It's OK to move on.